Writing from the perspective of a life coach, I’ve noticed words such as: rut, stuck, bored and unchallenged leaking frequently into our daily vocabulary. Why? Well, one of the reasons is because new job opportunities are limited making new experiences scarce, and with money tight your world can feel like it has shrunk. In essence we are beginning to feel boxed in, jaded and fed-up. But although it seems the country has its handbrake on, that’s no excuse to put your life on hold.
One way of putting fire back into your belly is reconnecting with your passions. Although I agree with Yves Saint Laurent’s quip, ‘The most beautiful make-up of a woman is passion. But cosmetics are easier to buy’, a fiery red lipstick or a rush of blush won’t feed the soul. Life without a passion – and I’m not just talking about a can’t-keep-your-hands-off-each-other relationship, can feel like a jigsaw with the last crucial bit missing. Swapping purpose for passion can make everything seem significant and your life fuller.
For some, passions come naturally, but for others fusing with something that makes your heart quicken and gives meaning outside the mundane takes a little detective work. Truth is, you’ve probably fallen out of the habit of asking yourself how you can bring excitement to your life. To put radiance back into your cheeks naturally, here are my cosmetic free questions to ask yourself:
1. What would you do for free?
Generally speaking we are ruled by money, and that’s the life game we find ourselves playing in order to survive. The downside? It leads us to think about dosh first, instead of what makes us truly happy. Turn the theory on its head. Doing something you’re passionate about brings rewards. Most successful people in business don’t go out to please their bank manager, they go out to please themselves – their success is a by product of their passion.
2. What makes you creative?
Think about something in your life that always encourages you to come up with new, fun and exciting ideas. Whatever makes you creative is something you’re passionate about.
3. What do you find effortless?
Usually, what we find easy will be something we’re passionate about. Think about what you’re naturally good at. How can you take it further? A client of mine never went out without a camera. Like her lipstick, it was always in her bag, ready for her to snap away at anything that caught her interest. Exploring this more in a session, we discovered she had a very creative eye and her secret passion was to become a photographer. In essence, she was one, but only defined herself by what she did in her current job. Once her blinkers were off, a month later she approached an arty brassiere with samples of her work. They suggested displaying them on their walls. She sold 20 prints. Proof you don’t have to give up the life you have now to unearth and pursue your passion.
4. What do you talk about?
What we chatter about certainly throws up clues as to what we’re interested in. Most of the time we’re not even aware of it, which is why it’s a good idea to ask those who lend their ears - such as friends or spouses. Ask them what do you always bring a conversation around to. Your next move, weaving it into your life. As the thread becomes stronger, you become happier.
5. What would you like to try?
We all started out with big ambitions, but somehow, life pushes us in another direction, and the next thing we know those ambitions have been sidelined. Ask yourself: if you were at the end of your life, what would you regret not having given a try? What would you have liked to have done, but never gave yourself the chance? It could be anything from horse riding, Flamenco dancing to sky diving. Make it happen now!